Friday, January 7, 2011

Being A Little Hard Headed

I wanted to share my mess up with you.  Well, I don't really want to share it but I feel God wants me to so I will.  I do not think I am a hard headed person, though my husband may disagree.  But after what happened to me today, maybe I am.  I really got a God spanking and boy did it hurt.

My husband works construction outside in Kansas.  When we woke up this morning it was only 24degrees.  That is cold!  I buy my husband these hot hand packets to keep in his gloves and pockets.  They stay very warm helping to keep him warm.  I am not sure if I miscounted when I bought them last week or if he took extra one day and didn't realize it.  But this morning, don't forget I said 24degrees, there were no hot hands.  On top of that he could not find his gloves.  Not good.  He was pretty upset and thought I just did not buy him enough.  I was pretty upset and thought he probably had some in his truck, no biggie.  Well, this little thing turned into an ugly disagreement.  After he left for work, very upset, I decided when the kids woke up I was going to run to the store buy him hot hands and gloves, get him some breakfast and take it to him and tell him I was very sorry for my attitude.  Great idea right?

No.  You see where my husband is working right now is an hour and half away.  That's right.  Three hours, round trip, of driving and about twenty dollars in gas.  When I told him I was coming he said no not to come.  It is, obviously, too far and I have other things to do.  Plus once the sun was up it started to warm up a little.  Nope.  I couldn't listen.  He was still upset and I just had to prove that I was sorry.  So I drove for three hours to a place I had never been (if you remember back I said I hate driving) all to prove a point. 

When I safely got there I was so proud of myself for actually finding the place and bringing him gloves, hot hands and food.  On my drive home, God spanked me.

"A gentle answer turns away wrath but a harsh words stirs up anger." Proverbs 15:1

I should have gently answered my husband this morning when he was concerned about the weather and not having the proper dress.  Everything could have been avoided.

"She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard." Proverbs 31:16

The Proverbs 31 woman knows how to spend her money wisely.  That is not what I did today.  Spending twenty dollars in gas unnecessarily was not a wise choice.

"She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks." Proverbs 31:16

The Proverbs 31 woman knows how to spend her time wisely.  That is not what I did today.  I spent three hours driving causing everything else I had to do today to be far behind. 

God spankings are hard.  But He disciplines us because He loves us.  I know next time to use gentle and wise words and to use my money and time more wisely.  I want to encourage you, if you are ever in a similar situation, stop and pray about it.  Do not become hard headed and learn the hard way.  Now, I can praise God for His forgiveness and a lesson learned.

Sweet Blessings~


  1. At least you acknowledge that God spoke to you and 'spanked' you. I am a very 'proud' woman and am not sure that I would have. May God continue to speak to you and may He knock me off my 'pride' perch a little bit with your post!! Thank you.

  2. Thanks for your vulnerability and encouragement! Great post!

  3. I can be hard-headed too! At least you saw the 'spanking' for what it was! Sometimes I think I miss out on the lesson because I am too stubborn to see it...

  4. I believe all of us can be hardheaded at times and we do need that 'spanking' from God. Like Allison said you saw the spanking for what it was. When that happens we need to praise the Lord because we know He loves us enough to let us know He is showing us things we need to be aware off. Thank you for a great post and sharing this with us.

  5. Jenifer, we're all guilty of being "hardheaded" now and again. Shannon and I have had similar situations, and more than once I've had a "God Spanking" (I love that phrase) after the fact.

    All we can do is try to learn from His Guidance and Correction and become better Children going forward.

    Thank you for sharing, and have a Blessed Day!

  6. Hi Jenifer,
    Aw, I'm sorry you had such a hard morning, not fun is it. I guess you can take heart that you are in good company, we all have stupid moments, but it doesn't take away the hurt. Hope you are feeling better now.
    Big Hugs, Cindy

  7. I am learning to recognize a particular feeling inside, kind of like a spirit spice, that warns me. I sure wish I recognized it about forever years ago - but I guess that is one of the benefits of age.

    The wonderful thing is that when we recognize we erred, we repent, then we never have to look on our past actions through shame but through wisdom learned:)

    Where do you got those hot hands for gloves and pockets? My husband could use them.

    Thanks for blessing me today:)

  8. Bluecottonmemory, thank you for stopping by! I get the hot hands at walmart. They are in the check out lanes by the register. Bright orange colored packs and they say hot hands. Hope that helps! :)


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