Monday, July 18, 2011

Media Monday - Media and Our Marriage

Today I am posting a Marriage Monday over at Woman to Woman Ministries.  Please join us as we discuss praying for our husbands.

We are linking up with Women Living Well again this week for Media Monday.  Today we are discussing media and our marriage.  There are several ways to go on this topic.  Recently, I talked about Paying Attention to our spouse.  But today I want to touch some other dangers of social media.

Have you ever had a disagreement with your spouse only to go to facebook and see someone commenting on how wonderful, helpful or romantic their spouse is?  Suddenly we see the other person as great and become dissatisfied with our spouse.  We become jealous and think 'what if.'  We need to be on guard for this.  If you find yourself in this situation, immediately pray thanking God for your spouse.  Then think of their good qualities and why you love them.

Our conversations with someone of the opposite gender may be completely innocent.  But if we are having these conversations without the knowledge of our spouse, we are playing with fire.  We need to be upfront and honest with our spouse about who we are talking to.  Our conversations with the other person need to be out in the open.

I know of a woman who chooses to only have men in her family on her facebook.  If a man is not related to her, she does not 'friend' him.  Am I suggesting this?  Not necessarily, though I do think it is a great idea.  I do have other men on my facebook.  But our spouse should know who we have on our facebook and who we are texting and emailing.  And if our spouse is uncomfortable with someone we need to stop that contact.

Be careful who you talk to.  Always be upfront and completely honest with your spouse.  One out of five divorcing couples blames social media (not that I am saying it is social media's fault, but it does make it easier to connect with someone).  We need to guard our hearts and our marriage.

Sweet Blessings~


  1. Great post. We should never think our spouse doesn't care who we talk to without first making sure. As you have said it may be innocent but it will cause trouble if our spouse doesn't know about it or doesn't want us talking to this person.

    Blessings to you.

  2. Great reminder, Jenifer. We should not be hiding anything from our spouses. People will blame their bad relationships on social media but it comes down to communicating with one another and being open and honest.

  3. Hi Jenifer - really great post. I think being open and honest with your spouse is the only way to prevent the devil from using harmless situations for evil and turning them into things they are not or should not have been. I'd rather err on the side of being too cautious than not at all.
    God bless

  4. Great post! We must be so, so careful to guard our marriage. Satan wants to see it destroyed and will use social media to accomplish that.

  5. There have been/are times when I have been upset with my dh and have gone to my 'mommy boards' and read a 'dh brag' and it made me so jealous. 'WHY couldn't my dh be like that?' It seriously hurt my marriage. It got to a really scary point (for me bc I was always comparing the poor man to others). That was NOT fair to him! Since then, I have learned to NOT say negative things about my dh online (I can forget, but the internet doesn't), to NOT compare my dh to others... and to NOT let my jealousy of what others HAVE affect what *I* have... Sorry for the book! Your post just really hit home for me.

  6. Wonderful post filled with godly encouragement for today's times filled with technology. Caution and discernment should play a vital role as we engage in today's technology. Thanks for sharing.

  7. I enjoyed reading your thoughts today! Thanks so much for joining me :)!
    Lots of love,

  8. I agree, we shouldn't be talking to other men without our husbands knowledge or approval. It is fire for sure. Thanks for more great encouragement today :) Blessings!

  9. That is so true about not talking to people that your spouse doesn't know about. It really is playing with fire and I don't think I'd want to get to a place where it is comfortable to keep secrets from my husband.

  10. These are excellent points Jenifer, and something that I see the effects of quite often in my business.

    Shannon and I make it a VERY distinct point to make our phone call history, SMS and chat logs and email messages open to each other. We also know each other's Facebook passwords, and talk about who we've spoken with over the course of the day. While it may seem like overkill, we work very hard to maintain an openness in our marriage and it's avoided many potential misunderstandings.

    Great post!

    Have a Blessed Day!

  11. Phil, we do the same. Our passwords are the very same so that we always have access to each other's facebook and such. I think 'overkill' is worth it to respect the marriage.


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