Friday, February 14, 2014

The Marriage You've Always Wanted

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You plan the perfect wedding. Everything is just lovely. Those first few months of getting to know one another on this new, deeper level is precious. You learn new little quirks about your new mate, and you love it. These quirks make them who they are. Everything is so wonderful and marriage is amazing.

Then, the honeymoon phase is over.

Each of those quirks you loved before now drive you up the wall! You are beginning to wonder if you even know who you are married to. This perfect wedded bliss is turning out to be too hard.

How can you have the marriage you always wanted?

Too often we hear people say, "I just don't love him/her anymore." Friends, love is a choice. We must choose each day to love our spouse. Even when we are angry or hurt, we must make a choice to love. Gary Chapman, best selling author of The 5 Love Languages, says in his book The Marriage You've Always Wanted:
"God loved us when we were very unlovely. So a husband is commanded to love his wife even when she isn't very lovable. You see, any man can love a woman who loves him. You do not need to be commanded to do that. That is the kind of love we knew before we got married. I was lovely to her because she was lovely to me, but how I am to respond now that my partner is not lovely? This is where the Biblical admonition gives us help. If I respond in kindness, understanding, patience and courtesy, I am making it easy as possible for her to respond in a like manner."
God gives us such a beautiful marriage helper: the Holy Spirit. If we let the Holy Spirit into our marriage as God intended, it is easier to respond in love, show kindness and be patient. The Holy Spirit makes it easier to have a 1 Corinthians 13 marriage.

The Bible tells us in 1 Peter 4:8 that love covers a multitude of sins. If we truly love our mate, and remember it is a choice, we will learn to work through our issues in a loving way. We won't walk away from our spouse simply because there was a problem. We will love them through it as we work through it. Communication is such a vital key in marriage. We can't work through the problems without talking about them.

Just because things are not going well right now doesn't mean it has to stay like this. It doesn't mean the marriage is over. It can get better. God wants it to get better for you. Whether you've been married two years or fifty-two years, you can still have the marriage you always wanted, a marriage God intended.

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  1. My marriage tip would be when youre angry and feeling out of control hug ur spouse. A long hug, sometimes being held is the cure for the out of control feeling. And it will calm the argument or fight.

  2. I love to show my hubby that I love him by sending him little text messages that simply say Love you. We also end every phone conversation the same regardless if we are mad at each other. One of us will say love you, and the other will say love you more. We also say this as we are laying down to sleep. Our 13 year old son even says it to us when we end conversations over the phone with him. So cute.

  3. My marriage tip is to try not to take everything personally. Let some things go. If they don't really matter, don't waste your time on them.

  4. Pick your battles... always ask yourself if this particular thing is worth fighting over... Most times it's not.

  5. Pick your battles... always ask yourself if this particular thing is worth fighting over... Most times it's not.


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