Yesterday I started reading The Five Love Languages of Children, by Dr. Gary Chapman. Dr. Chapman says, "You may truly love your child, but unless she feels it, she will not feel loved." We can deeply love our children but they need to feel that love. Saying "I love you" is very important but remember the saying actions speak louder than words.
The book talks about the love language of touch. This is definitely the language of my two youngest children. My little ones love to sit on my lap and have me rub their back. The also love to sit on daddy's lap and snuggle. This shows them how much we love them. They need touch.
My oldest two children love spending time with us. Even if it is just riding with us to run an errand. They enjoy getting one on one attention. Talking to us without having a sibling interrupt or having my attention go else where. This shows them we love them. They need quality time.
Each child needs all of the five love languages; physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service. But each child also has that one thing that really speaks volumes to them.
I deeply desire for my children to know how much I love them. I want them to grow up always knowing my love. Even if it takes extra individual time with them, rubbing backs when I'd really like some space, or listening when I've heard the story before. I want to leave them with a legacy of true love.
What is your child's love language?
I encourage to check out The Five Love Languages of Children and determine how your child sees love.