I AM GETTING A LOT OF EMAIL AND COMMENTS ABOUT THIS POST. PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT I WRITE TO WOMEN. YES HUSBANDS AND WIVES SHOULD BOTH SERVE ONE ANOTHER IN LOVE. BOTH HUSBANDS AND WIVES SHOULD TAKE CARE OF EACH OTHER AND FULLY RESPECT ONE ANOTHER. THE REASON THIS POST TALKS ABOUT WOMEN SERVING AND RESPECTING AND NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND IS BECAUSE IT IS WRITTEN TO WOMEN. AT SOME POINT I MAY WRITE TO MEN AND IT WILL BE THE OTHER WAY AROUND. AGAIN, BOTH PARTNERS SHOULD SERVE AND RESPECT EACH OTHER IN LOVE, BUT I WRITE TO WOMEN ON THIS BLOG. THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS.
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The most important thing we can teach our children is about God. His salvation, His grace and His love. That is something we need to begin teaching our children even from the womb. I remember with each of my pregnancies, I would touch my stomach and talk to my babies, as most moms do. But I did not just talk to them, I prayed over them and told them about God. So yes, even in the womb we can teach our children about God.
However, there is something else that is very important to teach our children about from a very early age. Marriage.
Our children see our marriage. They understand more than we realize. What we model to them is their first and most influential example of marriage. Is your marriage teaching your children how to truly love, respect, honor and cherish a mate? Or is your marriage teaching your children the exact opposite?
How can we teach our children about marriage?
- Respect your husband. Even if you do not agree with him, respect him. Period. Not only does this teach your children to respect their spouse, but it shows true love to your husband.
- Never point out his mistakes in front of the kids. If you do not agree with something he says or does, only tell him in a calm way, not an accusing way. And only tell him in private, away from the kids and away from others.
- Do not argue in front of the kids. Hold your temper and your tongue and take the discussion into the privacy of your bedroom. Even in the privacy of your bedroom, be careful not to raise your voice, voices carry.
- Never talk bad about your husband to anyone, especially your children. When you speak ill of your husband, it gives the impression to your children that it is okay to speak badly of their father and later on their own spouse. When you are speaking to others, speak positive words about your husband.
- Be his helpmate. We are called by God to be servants, so serve your husband. You can do little things to help him out like run errands, fix him a glass of tea, bring him a snack, and iron his clothes, for just a couple of examples.
- Laugh with him. Laugh with your husband. Even if it is the same jokes you have heard a million times, laugh. This shows your husband your love and shows your children that marriage is meant to bring fun, not anger.
- Show physical displays of affection. Hold hands with your husband, kiss, hug, let your children see that you love each other.
- Be an example of compromise. It is Saturday and you want to go to the park for a picnic and play but your husband wants to get yard work done. Come to a mutual agreement. Do yard work for two hours then go to the park for two hours. Let your children see you working together and compromising.
- Pray with your husband. Let your children see that in a marriage, prayer is vital. Let them see you praying together.
- Pray for your husband often. When you are saying prayers throughout the day, pray for your husband. Let your children know that praying for your mate is of great importance.